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Our Imperfections Make Us Perfect

John Legend – You & I (Nobody In The World)

This video actually brought tears to my eyes (yes, I’m a big softy!) because it brings together a collection of so many women of different shapes, sizes and colour and encourages them to love themselves. We are all beautiful in so many different ways. I hate hearing anyone put themselves down, especially because of their looks. I allowed my looks to hold me back from being more adventurous and I ended up regretting doing that. Scars, weight and stretch marks are all part of simply being human. I do my best to dress well and look good but I don’t allow it to consume my thoughts. I lost a lot of weight and as a result my upper arms have stretch marks and a small amount of loose skin. My arms don’t look really bad but let’s face it: you are your own worst critic. Last summer I allowed myself to get upset about my flaws and I let it stop me from wearing certain things. This year I vowed to put it to the back of my mind and do whatever I like while wearing whatever I like so that’s exactly what I did. I feel so much better now. Overlooking your imperfections can be an overwhelming task but you can do it and you can embrace the way you look too.

I challenge you to think of at least three things that you like about your looks.

Remember, our imperfections make us human and your imperfections are so perfect.


Missing you, family emergencies and changes

I love you but I must say goodbye – Walking on Cars

You know what wrecks my head? One of the things in life that I still struggle to comprehend… losing people. I am the kind of person that tries so bloody hard to be a good person and a good friend yet the people I was once closest to are now gone. That’s pretty hard to digest. It’s almost impossible to remember such good people without wishing things were the same. I know it may be a childish notion to hope for things to remain unchanging and for people to stay loyal but I know it would make life better in some ways. I miss them so very much. Life goes on but I can’t help questioning how much they really cared, if they ever did.

A few nights ago I had to deal with a very delicate family emergency. I was the one that had to step up and deal with things. Be the strong one for everyone else, be calm, smart and decisive. I realised then that everything had changed. My Mom, aunts and uncles all used to treat me like I was still a child but now I’m the carer and the protector. I always hated that treatment anyway so the change is welcome yet the pressure felt immense. I was out all night until about 5am and ended up in two different hospitals. Trying, helping, in any way I could.

Things are constantly changing so why is that so hard to deal with? Why do I want to hold onto some parts of the past and never let go? It’s a good life that we are all living but the obstacle course is quite a challenge.

Let’s talk about Lauren Aquilina


There isn’t many singers that catch my attention so much from one single song. Lauren’s song Fools held my attention from the first time that I heard it. It’s a beautiful song with enchanting lyrics and I can’t recommend her enough. Listen to her music and I’m sure you will hear her brilliance for yourselves. Feel free to comment with any music suggestions or let me know what you think of Lauren Aquilina!

Those hardest to love need it most



When I listen to a song I like to really pay close attention to the lyrics and what the writer was trying to say. These are the lyrics to a song I recently discovered by a band that’s not very well known called Our Last Night. I love the hopelessness in it coupled with the mantra of

You can make it to the sunrise.

It’s a powerful combination. Even through our darkest days there is always a reason to keep fighting. Lists, I love lists. I make lists of things I need, things I want and more importantly I make lists of the people who make this life special. It might sound strange but having something in front of you to remind you of the love that surrounds you can really help to guide you through difficult times. Music was there for me through times when I had no one else to turn to. Now I turn to music when I cannot find the words to describe how I feel. No matter what I know it will have the right words to comfort me. So here are those lyrics…

Full of despair, inside a darkness
Self conscious and scared held prisoner of war
Running out of air, buried in a sadness
Want a way out of this paralyzing world
And the sounds of the cries when a family’s loved one dies
It echoes through a vacant room where a young soul still resides

When the night is cold and you feel like no one knows what it’s like to be buried in this hole
You can make it to the sunrise
You can make it to the sunrise

Searching for a way to escape the madness
A dire need for change as we fight for better days
The hurt and the pain cut deep like a razor blade
Holding in a cry for love
Abandoned and afraid

When the night is cold and you feel like no one knows what it’s like to be buried in this hole
You can make it to the sunrise
You can make it to the sunrise

I won’t go to my grave until a difference is made
I won’t go to my grave until a difference is made, until a difference is made

When the night is cold and you feel like no one knows what it’s like to be buried in this hole
You can make it to the sunrise
You can make it to the sunrise

I won’t go to my grave
Until a difference is made (X3)

Here’s the video for Our Last Night – Sunrise


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